Is your relationship unhealthy?

Identifying an unhealthy relationship may not be too difficult. Perhaps, the fact that you are reading this article is because you question the healthiness of a current relationship. This relationship can be a friendship, it can be a relationship between you and a family member/child(ren) or perhaps this relationship is a romantic relationship between you and your significant other. Regardless of the type of relationship there are tell-tale signs that the relationship is unhealthy.

Do you feel upset (sad, angry) when you think about the relationship and the person?

               Do you constantly worry about your inability to appease the person in the relationship?

                               Does the person make you feel apologetic for things you may have said or done to them? Or are you punished/shunned after making a mistake?

Are you afraid to be yourself around the person?

Do you get nervous/anxious when you think about spending time with the person?

Is the person verbally, sexually, emotionally, physically or spiritually abusive towards you?

If you have said yes to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If you have answered yes to more than one of these questions, you will need to work your way out of that relationship.

The truth is that sometimes we are attracted to unhealthy relationships because it is what we have come to know and feel comfortable being around…at least some part of us. However, we can recognize that this behavior, after seeing the appropriate way other people treat their loved ones, is not appropriate and that we are surrounded by unhealthy relationships.

Maybe you may be the abuser in the relationship? How do you tell? If you do any of the things in the above questions to other people who you know care about you, then you may be the abuser and/or the cause of an unhealthy relationship.

We tell ourselves that the behavior is going to change or we can change our behavior. In reality, we need help to do so. Stepping away from an abusive relationship is very challenging and can be very harmful if not done with support and assistance. You can get connected to a therapist in your local area for support. If that is too much of a commitment for you, then perhaps online therapy or tele-therapy is a better route. Visit my website to schedule an appointment: https://linneawillis.icouch.me/. Must reside/possess physical address in Maryland or West Virginia.

If you are in an abusive relationship and need help, please call:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

1-800-787-3224v(TTY for Deaf/Hard of Hearing)

Or live chat Now by clicking on this link: The National Domestic Violence Hotline