Is your relationship unhealthy?

Identifying an unhealthy relationship may not be too difficult. Perhaps, the fact that you are reading this article is because you question the healthiness of a current relationship. This relationship can be a friendship, it can be a relationship between you and a family member/child(ren) or perhaps this relationship is a romantic relationship between you and your significant other. Regardless of the type of relationship there are tell-tale signs that the relationship is unhealthy.

Do you feel upset (sad, angry) when you think about the relationship and the person?

               Do you constantly worry about your inability to appease the person in the relationship?

                               Does the person make you feel apologetic for things you may have said or done to them? Or are you punished/shunned after making a mistake?

Are you afraid to be yourself around the person?

Do you get nervous/anxious when you think about spending time with the person?

Is the person verbally, sexually, emotionally, physically or spiritually abusive towards you?

If you have said yes to any of these questions, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. If you have answered yes to more than one of these questions, you will need to work your way out of that relationship.

The truth is that sometimes we are attracted to unhealthy relationships because it is what we have come to know and feel comfortable being around…at least some part of us. However, we can recognize that this behavior, after seeing the appropriate way other people treat their loved ones, is not appropriate and that we are surrounded by unhealthy relationships.

Maybe you may be the abuser in the relationship? How do you tell? If you do any of the things in the above questions to other people who you know care about you, then you may be the abuser and/or the cause of an unhealthy relationship.

We tell ourselves that the behavior is going to change or we can change our behavior. In reality, we need help to do so. Stepping away from an abusive relationship is very challenging and can be very harmful if not done with support and assistance. You can get connected to a therapist in your local area for support. If that is too much of a commitment for you, then perhaps online therapy or tele-therapy is a better route. Visit my website to schedule an appointment: https://linneawillis.icouch.me/. Must reside/possess physical address in Maryland or West Virginia.

If you are in an abusive relationship and need help, please call:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

1-800-787-3224v(TTY for Deaf/Hard of Hearing)

Or live chat Now by clicking on this link: The National Domestic Violence Hotline

Real Talk - The Mind and Abuse

This post has nothing to do with hair or skin or nails....but it has to do with the mind in a round about way. This is a huge peak into my life, but somehow i felt compelled to share this.

Let me begin by saying I attended a Women's Retreat this weekend and had a beautiful time as expected and anticipated. Lots of things were discussed, but one of the nuggets I took away dealt with generational curses...If you know what they are, skip to the next paragraph. If you don't read on. Generational curses are things that has been brought on your family as a burden to bear. For instance, your family may be riddled with cancer. You may have several members of the family that may develop different cancers...some may live, some may die. Another example of a generational curse is cheating/lying. Sometimes we become so comfortable with our generational curse that they may not be dealbreakers for us in a relationship. Let's take the last example for instance. If I am accustomed to my family cheating or know of several women in my family that has been cheated on, it may be eaasier for me to date someone who is cheating on me. Somehow, I may have become hardwired to become comfortable with that.